How to Establish a Relationship with your AncestorsΒ 

First of all I want to say this is different for everybody and I encourage you to first research how it’s done in your culture or the culture you’re drawn to the most if your mixed blood which most of us are.

There’s no right or wrong way and listen to what your intuition says because spirit speaks to us through our knowing. 

You don’t have to practice witchcraft to have a relationship with your ancestors. I encourage it noneoftheless. The importance of bringing your kin into the physical world to draw on their love, support, wisdom and courage is nothing short of a blessing and nothing honours their life more than walking your individual path that is your own and not one that is mixed with conditioning or other people’s beliefs but one that really aligns and heals the threads of those that have come before you. 

As I mentioned above, first research your cultural lineage. You don’t need to know those that have passed before you to honour their life. On my slavic side, I know of a couple of women who have passed though I didn’t know them personally that doesn’t matter, I have grown to know them through developing a relationship with my ancestors and strengthened the connection by researching the mythological stories of my culture and speaking to those that are living on how they once lived and what traditions are still practiced today. 

Creating an ancestral altar and tending to it everyday and speaking to them like they are in front of you is encouraged. What you have on your altar is a personal one that represents your ancestors and culture or cultures. 

For example, photos of the dead. Those that have passed on, candies, incense, pieces which represent the dead. I have two skulls that are permanently on my table, and anything that may represent your culture/s. Also offerings. Offer if you know those that have passed on and what they liked in the physical offer it on your altar. If they smoked offer tobacco, if they drank offer the alcohol they loved, coffee, food from the last meal of the day (in my culture) whatever you feel that is appropriate. 

I encourage developing a strong relationship with them for a year at least before asking anything from them besides guidance. So I wouldn’t ask for them to help you with your craft until you have developed a strong connection to them. They maybe your family but you always approach any spirit with respect. 

Be aware that not all ancestors are not easy to get along with. Some were complete arseholes when they were alive and depending on their choices they may not have evolved. People have this idea when the living have passed, they suddenly become all knowing, not the case. You will have ancestors that also may not like you. Still honour them as they are your kin and you are responsible to do what you can to heal your ancestral thread. 

Why honour your ancestors? 

Because they are you. They are inside you. Generations of love and experience have moulded you into the person you are today. How you choose to be and live is how you honour the ones before you and the ones to come. We are responsible for those behind us and those before us and our relationship to our own is something that will continue on after we have return to soil. 

The more you choose to live the life that is your own, one of integrity, authenticity, respect and love and changing the dysfunctional patterns in your family to something that is loving and honourable walking the path of your real self, you are healing so many behind you and those that are to come. 

If you have any questions please let me know and if you find this informative I would love if you could share it as I would love to grow this community.